I’m often asked about the red mark on Madelyn’s arm. “Is it a birth mark?” “Did she hurt herself?” “Is it permanent?” So let me start from the beginning.
About a month after Madelyn was born, we noticed a red mark on Madelyn’s arm. It started small but continued to grow to about the size of a nickel. I had an idea about what it was because my best friend’s son had one on his head. Not only is she a mom, but she is also a nurse (almost Nurse Practitioner!) so obviously I had to ask her opinion. She told me it was most likely a hemangioma and that it would go away on its own. At Madelyn’s next well visit, her pediatrician confirmed what my friend and I suspected.
A hemangioma is basically a raised birth mark made up of a bunch of extra blood vessels. After a year it could start to shrink and fade, but sometimes it could take
years for it to disappear.
We love Madelyn’s special birthmark, but we have been faced with the decision of whether or not to start the process of having it removed. Kids can be cruel; and that’s coming from someone who loves children and has worked with them for many many years. Even if every kid in the world was the nicest kid ever, they are still going to be curious. We never want Madelyn to feel insecure. However, at this point she doesn’t know that she even has it, and the babies in her class are her same age so they don’t notice it either. It doesn’t hurt her, whereas, the laser process of having it removed could definitely cause her some pain. Therefore, Jonathan and I made the decision to not get it removed with the hope that it will start fading away on its own. If she gets to the point where it hasn’t gone away, and she starts to become unhappy, then we will probably take a look at our options again.
These decisions are so hard and they have only just begun!! How do you manage making tough decisions?